Can I tell you something triggery?
I’m sharing this because well, I can’t NOT. I’m having too many conversations where, within the first few minutes of getting to know them, they bring up their parents as the reason why they’re suffering. Long diatribes of explanation WHY they are where they are, and the undercurrent of how they blame their FAMILY for holding them back.
We’ve seen it in the movies where you see someone laying on a coach at a therapists office and the first thing the therapist says is, “Tell me about your parents.” – It always goes straight there.
I say this because this has been me too.
It is the ONE common denominator we ALL HAVE.
WE ALL HAVE A FAMILY.
I didn’t title the name of this FIRE YOUR PARENTS because it is deeper than that. Older than that. It goes back generations and we are caught in a cycle, on a wheel that we do not know we’re even on.
I’ve been almost obsessed with seeing the wheel, so I CAN LEARN TO GET OFF IT.
Not just for myself but for my son.
As well as some of us LEGIT were not raised by our biological parents so I cannot limit it to parents.
This is something I am a bit scared to say knowing my own family might read this at some point but here I am. I have been aching to say this for SO LONG. WISHING I could say this TO them myself but I know I cannot. At this point the only thing I can do is take all I’m learning and TEACH IT in order to help heal the world.
I always knew that there was “something wrong” with the dynamics in my family.
I did not have the education I do now, to understand WHY I felt like something was wrong.
I did not understand WHY I didn’t feel SAFE to say how I really felt around my parents.
Why I never told them the things that I was really struggling with.
YES, I knew something was wrong. OFF.
I would tell my friends to LOOK CLOSER. That what they saw on the outside (growing up a “rich kid”, with all the bells and whistles of a well lived childhood) was NOT what I was experiencing on the inside.
I told my friends that I would give ALL THE THINGS they saw that I had back, if it just meant that I could have the FAMILY I always yearned for.
I enjoyed spending time with my friends families, who emulated what I THOUGHT FAMILY WAS.
Unity. Togetherness. Playfulness. FUN.
Sure my family had good times, I’m sure we did. Please do not let me let you believe we didn’t, yet when I look back on those times, they were always filled with NOT FEELING COMFORTABLE BEING WHO I WAS.
WHO I AM. Who you see me being here and on Instagram. *My favorite platform to teach at the moment.
It HAUNTED ME. This unsafe feeling.
Being the black sheep (being the one who wouldn’t keep her mouth shut, who always stirred shit up in my house) I never felt I quite belonged in a house where secrecy and silence were the norm.
A DEEP SENSE OF “YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF.”
All this didn’t make sense. It didn’t. And it haunted me.
It haunted me because, if I wasn’t going to have what I thought a “family” was at home, I would seek it elsewhere.
AND SEEK I DID.
My attempts to find family in my friends. Oh my.
So much of it was magical.
Yet SO MUCH of it was damaging too.
Because I wasn’t aware of my families beliefs I was really raised with,
I was a broken person, seeking a broken person to FAMILY WITH.
And before you continue, please know… I GOT LUCKY.
I have some amazing friends who have weathered my test of time.
Yet others who, having resembled my brokenness, my living from an UNSAFE place,
were friendships closer to how I felt about my own family, than what I really wanted.
I was desperate to FAMILY with them, yet never quite feeling comfortable to be myself.
That was all I knew, at the time.
They are no longer in my life yet I am SO GRATEFUL for all they’ve taught me, about myself, and how to use all that I’m learning to help do this here.
AND DON’T GET ME STARTED ON RELATIONSHIPS! WHEW!
I spent the best of my 20’s in unrequited love.
UNREQUITED MEANS NOT RECIPROCAL. I love you but you don’t love me.
YOU KNOW… “THAT WAY”.
DAMN. HOW MANY NOT “THAT WAY” CONVERSATIONS HAVE I HAD IN MY LIFE.
YOU SEE, it’s how I felt IN MY FAMILY!!!
I love you but you don’t love me.
It’s TRIPPY to see how FAMILY is imprinted into every single aspect of our lives.
*even the clothes we wear.
YOU already know this.
YET WHAT YOU DON’T KNOW IS THE PEOPLE YOU CALL YOUR FAMILY ARE JUST AS FLAWED AND SCARED AS YOU. YET BECAUSE OF THESE GENERATIONAL CONDITIONED BELIEFS, THEY USE SHAME AND GUILT TO KEEP YOU THINKING THAT IT’S YOU.
Well it IS you and that’s the good thing! YOU GET TO CHANGE THIS WHENEVER YOU WANT!!!
AND WE ARE HERE IN THIS PROGRAM.
And finally, with our purpose. Our REAL jobs. The thing that is burning inside us.
How we have been raised AFFECTS EVERYTHING.
It is time to take a good hard look at FAMILY, in a safe place and ask ourselves…
- What about our families beliefs actually help us? Which ones are hurting us?
- Do we feel SAFE in our family? Emotionally and Spiritually?
- How does how we were raised, affect what we see in our lives.
My amazing online mentor, Katrina Ruth says –
YOUR LIFE IS A REFLECTION OF WHAT YOU BELIEVE YOU DESERVE.
MOST of us don’t believe we actually deserve to receive what we want.
We’ve been GROOMED to believe we don’t. For many different reasons, that we will be talking about here.
Enough. Enough is enough with this. Right?
You wouldn’t be still reading if you didn’t feel this GREAT QUAKE in every aspect of your life.
You can’t NOT feel it, am I right? It’s EVERYWHERE you look. I don’t even need to say where. YOU KNOW.
We gotta look at the ROOT OF THIS.. UNPACK IT SO WE CAN REBUILD IT.
Before you read anymore, I want you to look up and be familiar with the following term. It’s important you do so because WHY you’re feeling so foggy, so… not sure of what to do next…
it’s because WE are all experiencing long term effects of
Gaslighting is a manipulative tool in order to keep control. It’s meant to disorient in order to keep people from trusting their gut.
If you are meant to do this program, you must become acutely aware of what gaslighting is.
This is how we are going to get to the ROOT ..is to first learn that it’s NEVER BEEN YOUR FAULT.
This world, your GROOMING, up to now, has kept us in brain fog so that we never fully trust ourselves and what we feel inside.
It’s time to shift all that now. Come from out of the fog.
It’s WHY you have not done what you KNOW you’ve needed to do all your life.
It’s OKAY…it’s happened to ALL OF US.
Some of us have just cleared the fog sooner than others.
You are EXACTLY where you are supposed to be.
NOW is the time to really see you had no chance.
You’ve been set up to fail from a system that’s only goal is to keep you under control.
Here’s what I DO KNOW…
- This world NEEDS US to figure this shit out.
- This world NEEDS our gifts.
- This world NEEDS an overhaul of our systems.
ALL SYSTEMS. (Education, Law, Environmental, Technology, Medical, you name it)
EVEN OUR FAMILY SYSTEMS.
- This world NEEDS those who willing to LEAD.
That means it’s UP TO US to face what we are most scared of NOW,
To do it NOW.
It’s why you are drawn to me,
to this program.
You want to know HOW to get to the other side.
How about we do this together?
This program will be 30 days of us digging to the ROOT of our subconscious mind.
AROUND WHERE OUR FAMILY IS CONCERNED
MONEY – PURPOSE WORK – RELATIONSHIPS – PHYSICAL BODY
As well as what ever subjects pops up. (Please let me know if there is something you want to focus on.)
I’m not quite sure the details of this, I want this process to FLOW.
Each week there will be a live stream, exercises and accountability.
I WILL WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU SO PARTICIPATION IS MANDATORY.
It won’t be pretty at times, BUT IT WILL BE WORTH IT.
*By the way, you are not crazy that you feel scared to raise your hand. You have been taught NOT to raise your hand and by doing so means you’re selfish, and irresponsible.
THIS IS NOT THE TRUTH. Those beliefs around selfish and irresponsible are crumbling and NOW IS THE TIME to do this for you, and for your own legacy. For your children, your grandchildren.
For the work you are meant to do in this world.
NOW IS THE TIME.
Questions? Email email@example.com